Clarity Wellness

  I've been cleaning out my closets again.  My oldest is leaving the nest and going off to college on Saturday, (I'm sure that will inspire several other posts down the road, but for now we're not going to talk about it) so her clutter clearing is inspiring my clutter clearing and leading to the eruptions of small piles of random things around the house. Some of it's easy--things we know we don't need and will never use again, but with two kids moving out in the next few years, there are a lot of "just in case" things we've been holding onto.  We have extra dishes and silverware, "just in case" the girls want them for their first apartment.  We have multiples of several  tools, bedding, school supplies, etc. "just in case" we need them someday.  Charging cords to unidentified objects, "just in case" we ever figure out what they belong to.  Travel books "just in case" we visit those places again.  Wall décor we mi...

College move-in day Wow. I look at my Facebook group and blog and realize I’ve been quite the slacker lately. What’s going on? Well let me tell you… Life’s been going on. My oldest went off to college a few weeks ago, and though you might think that would free up more time for me (it technically has) I’ve also been having a hard time sitting still with my feelings or sitting still at all. The realization that my children are leaving the nest and my role as their mother is changing is throwing me for a loop. I’m not quite sure I’m ready for this. What does it mean for the rest of my life? Instead of thinking about that, I’ve been keeping quite busy-- cleaning the house, cleaning out closets, painting her room, planning band events, and planning an Alaska cruise. All things that need to be done eventually, but also things that can be parceled out after I’ve done the things that are really a priority to me, like writing and coaching—and maybe a little introspection. room makeover ...

Ummm...what?  Seriously, what messages are your things sending you on a daily basis?  Is it "Clean me, you lazy bum!" or "You have such good taste--I'm here to make you happy!" or "I know you don't like me much, but I belonged to your great aunt Alice so you're stuck with me for life!" And when you walk into your closet, do you hear "Put me on, daahling, and you'll look faaabulous!" or "Don't even think about--I can't believe how much weight you've put on, you pathetic pandemic porker!"  (I know, pretty harsh, but admit it, sometimes we're not very nice to ourselves.) Our homes should be places of refuge and serenity for us --a calm, peaceful place where we can relax, especially when we are working from home and staying at home more than ever now.  If the things in your house are adding to your stress because you have to take care of them, or making you feel bad about yourself because they point out your ...

Calm your inner environment by decluttering your outer The Lifechanging Magic of Tidying Up changed my life. It really did,--just ask my husband and my kids. For years they taunted me with chides of "Does it spark joy for you, Mom?" and railed against my Saturday flurries of purging the clutter. If you haven't read Marie Kondo's book or watched her NetFlix show, I'd highly recommend it. I don't subscribe to all her methods, (I have a hard time spending so much time folding clothes, and I've never been able to effectively thank my purse for the outstanding job it does each day) but the lessons she teaches about why and how to let go of the clutter in our lives are indeed lifechanging. Gretchen Rubin's Outer Order, Inner Calm is another book that resonated with me. It's true what she says: when we organize and declutter our outer environment, it creates calm in our inner environment. That's why cleaning my kitchen or clearing out the pant...